Gold Digger Vs. Sugar Baby
What’s the difference? The very term Gold Digger has been around since the mid 1800’s. Initially coined to describe the women following actual gold diggers in the California Gold Rush in hopes of dating or marrying them to access their cash.
The modern definition is as such:
Noun Informal. a woman who associates with or marries a man chiefly for material gain.
Living in a society with a resource based economy, you know there will always be greedy and conniving people trailing behind wealthy individuals in hopes to somehow benefit from their success.
A smart woman will understand the power and vulnerability that her femininity and sexuality hold. Rather than be downtrodden by the patriarchal society she was born into, she makes sure to be on the right side.
The vanilla members of society are unfamiliar with the newer types of dating that aren’t mainstream and therefore have trouble discerning between a money grubber and a girl that really is interested, and it makes sense. Outwardly, the two look very similar.
Both a gold digger and a sugar baby are young women engaging relationships with more established, usually older men. Both are gorgeous, confident, and charming enough to have landed themselves sophisticated and wealthy men.
They both seek a life of comfort and luxury and neither will shy away from taking serious steps to get what they want.
Although both types of women appear quite similar, the difference is pretty clear when you know the facts.
Here’s the breakdown:
Gold Digger The dreaded gold digger is the girl who makes wealthy men learn to guard the trust the bestow, and causes the women seeking these men to have to fight that much harder for a true relationship. She is readily available when the money is right and equally distant when there is none being offered.
A typical gold digger enters a man’s life as if by fate.
She pretends like she doesn’t know his monetary worth or acts aloof regarding the matter. At first, she doesn’t ask directly for money or gifts, but rather comes across as a victim of circumstance, repeatidly finding herself in situations only her Sugar Daddy can bail her out of.
She lacks goals. She supports herself with his hard earned cash and there’s no end in sight. She is selfish and unproductive. She doesn’t discuss aspirations because her goals were merely to suck a man dry of his wealth.
She has no problem being lazy and taking from others.
She’s a con artist in high heels. She takes what she can get and doesn’t care who she hurts in the process. Through inticing promises and deception, she hustles every last penny she can wring out of him and laughs the whole way to the bank.
She is in this for herself. If her entire demeanor changed at the flash of your rolex or gold card, watch out. On the flip side, if her sexual desires seem to be snuffed out by the thought of a ‘regular’ date or she is unavailable for anything but vacations, take heed.
If you don’t feel a genuine connection, chances are she doesn’t either.
She only values the money. She doesn’t care about you, your kind words, or your sweet gestures. As soon as she sees the payout withdrawn she is out and will only cry about it if she has no hopes of a divorce settlement.
Understanding what to watch out for can protect you and your hard earned finances from greed stricken leaches.
The misunderstood sugar baby enjoys the guidance and mentorship offered by her Sugar Daddy. She respects his hard work and tries to make their dates fun and exciting. She is all in when the feeling is there but isn’t afraid to move on if it’s not.
She is courageous. She doesn’t mind looking past feminine ideals or societal expectations to go after her dreams. She realizes that society will always give women a shallow label regardless of who they’re dating.
She knows the lifestyle she desires and will work to get there despite any raised eyebrows.
She is goal oriented and driven. A Sugar Baby uses her sweet perks to move ahead in life. She understands that a person’s value far exceeds their net worth and loves to hear about your accomplishments. Consequently, she doesn’t shy away from discussing her career goals.
She knows your wisdom and business savvy will last her much longer than any gifts or money.
She is honest. She and her Sugar Daddy laid out expectations for the relationship from the beginning and she holds fast to her end of the bargain. She is upfront about her lifestyle at least with those closest to her and she is unashamed of chasing her goals.
This also means she will leave if the feelings aren’t there.
She is giving. Not only does she enjoy the gifts she’s given, she is eager to please. Sugar Babies are aware of the limitations that come with youth and beauty and strive to improve their conversation and entertainment skills.
Although she wants to improve her economic standing, she wants to accomplish her goals with your aid, not at your expense.
She has class. She aspires to change her status and knows high pedigree individuals have a certain image to uphold. Since her intentions are more than monetarily based, she holds steadfast to her morals, no matter what gift is offered. She won’t allow herself to be bought and won’t go along with being treated poorly just to get some quick cash.
She minds the need for discretion and is flexible around her Sugar Daddy’s busy life, and she expects the same amount of respect from him.
Like with anything, individual Gold Diggers and Sugar Babies vary majorly from person to person. Two gold diggers or two sugar babies on the other hand could look totally different and go about things in completely different ways.
The main point to leave with is that there is mutual respect, honesty, and an emotional connection involved with Sugar Dating, while a gold digger is exclusively involved to satisfy her needs with no regards to your own, and is blatantly lying to your face about it.
If you are worried you may have mistakenly picked up a dirty gold digger thinking she was a sweet Sugar Baby, finding out for sure is as easy as withholding money from the woman in question.
If she still agrees to go on a date that isn’t overly luxurious or shows understanding when you refuse to pay up, you know she’s really interested in you.
If is immediately asking for money, irrationally mad, or becomes a ghost, you know she wasn’t in it for the relationship, but merely to fill pockets and line her purse.