How To Know You've Accomplished SugarBaby Success
After a few months of sugar dating, you’ll have experienced the ups and downs that come with the whirlwind of dating rich and established men, and you know by now that sometimes a crash follows the cash. It’s time to review your months of sugardating and assess your success. Here are six ways to know you’re a sugarbaby success.
JEWELS AND JETS DON’T BRING JEALOUSY
Sure, in the beginning you would have discovered and followed other sugarbabies on Instagram and seen their uploads of Chanel bags, shopping sprees and sailing trips – it might have lit a fire of jealousy in you and you became disgruntled with what your sugardaddy was providing – or not providing.
These days, you see it for what it is. You understand that with Hermes and Harrods shopping sprees comes a lot of hard work – these babies are at the top of their game and they have nurtured the relationship with their sugardaddy to get where they are. Instead of being jealous and trying to compete, you admire and respect them – and aspire to reach the lofty heights they are enjoying – in a private jet, of course.
THE SKY IS NOT YOUR LIMIT
When you first started sugardating, you might have been intimidated by the successful, intelligent gentlemen you started mingling and meeting with. Their worldly experience and the fact they have something you so desperately want meant they held the cards, and you’d do almost anything to be what you imagined was the perfect sugarbaby: one who doesn’t say no.
Now, you understand it’s okay to have limits – particularly if you’re not happy with the level of compensation or commitment from your sugardaddy. If you’re constantly being let down or stood up, it’s time to walk and you’re not afraid to do so. You recognise your worth, and you’ve realised that you have something he so desperately wants too.
THERE ARE ALL TYPES OF SUGARDADDIES, AND SOME AREN’T GOOD
While the majority of sugardaddies out there want to meet and seduce young women and open doors to the most luxurious version of life, there are others who will try to dupe you by promising diamonds but turn out to be duds. It’s okay to have been tripped up once or twice by a tricky sugardaddy who was just trying to see how much he could get out of you without reciprocating.
There’s always a level of trust to be achieved between the sugardaddy and the sugarbaby – and both have to go out on a limb when they first meet, to explore whether they click and there is a chance at a long-term relationship. You tried, you failed. It’s okay, move on.
YOUR STANDARDS ARE AS HIGH AS YOUR YSL HEELS
Most sugarbabies think long and hard before they enter the complex and enticing world of sugar dating about what their motivations are. Whether it’s paying off a debt, a student loan or just wanting to travel and see how the other half lives, you know there’s only so much you’ll do to get there.
Successful sugar relationships are ones that are mutually beneficial – keep your eye on the prize and never drop your standards or go further with anything you told yourself you wouldn’t do. You know that there’s no point in sticking around with a disappointing or flaky sugardaddy – there are plenty more out there who would love to spend time with you.
YOU HAVE JOINED THE SISTERHOOD AND SUPPORT OTHER SUGARBABIES
Rather than being jealous or competitive, you enjoy spending time and sharing advice with other sugarbabies. Some are new to the game, some are experts and you know it’s important to learn from both.
Having someone understand what you’re experiencing if you get too attached to your sugardaddy, or aren’t sure how to broach the subject of allowances or compensation is worth its weight in gold. Be kind to them, and your sugar sisters will be there to listen and help.
YOU DON’T WEAR YOUR HEART ON YOUR SLEEVE
A rookie mistake of most sugarbabies is forgetting they are not, and never will be, the wife or girlfriend of their sugardaddy. It’s easy to form an emotional attachment to the person providing a beautiful life for you and telling you how much they value you. A sugardaddy is often a confidante as well as a lover – one who encourages you to tell him your dreams and goals so he can try to support you in them. Of course, it’s easy to fall in love with them!
These days, you keep an almost professional separation in your mind when it comes to your sugardadddy. You are dedicated to him, but you are more dedicated to protecting your own heart from getting broken – and he’ll never know the difference.